Learning how to stop seeking validation from someone who hurt you happens slowly. It is not a switch you flip one day. It is a practice. It is choosing yourself again and again, especially on the days when you still wish they would choose you. 1. Tell You ...
Being kind to yourself can feel hard when you are healing. You may know you need compassion. You may even tell other people to be gentle with themselves. But when it comes to you, the words may feel different. You may judge yourself for feeling too much.Y ...
For a long time, I did not understand why I smile when I’m hurting inside. I can be reading something painful. My chest can feel heavy. My throat can feel tight. I can feel sad, scared, or close to tears. Still, my face may smile. The smile does not match ...
Some pain starts before you have words for it. For me, father wound healing has not been a straight road. It has been slow, deep, and emotional. It has also forced me to look at the little girl inside me and tell her the truth. She was not hard to ...
Have you ever wanted to cry, but your body would not let you? I have. For me, crying has never felt simple. Sometimes crying feels scary because my body learned a long time ago that showing pain was not safe. My throat gets tight. My chest feels heavy. My ...
For a long time, I think I confused being loved with being good enough. If I could explain myself the right way, maybe someone would understand me. If I could be helpful enough, maybe they would stay. If I could stay calm, quiet, strong, easy, or useful, ...
Learning to love yourself can sound simple until you actually have to do it. People say, love yourself first, but they do not always explain how. What does that mean when you are still healing?What does it mean when you struggle with your confidence?What ...
I used to think healing meant my adult mind would finally convince my heart that I was safe. But today, I realized something deeper. My mind knows I am safe now. My mind knows it is okay to cry. My mind knows I am not that little girl anymore. But emotion ...
https://youtube.com/shorts/d4OK0OtFn58?si=s8TC90Eg3nnOLlpK I used to think love had to feel intense to be real. If I was anxious, chasing, proving, overthinking, waiting, crying, hoping, or trying to make someone choose me, part of me thought that m ...
Some people may look at animals and only see pets. I don’t. I see souls. I see comfort. I see loyalty. I see little angels with paws who somehow know when a person is hurting, even when nobody says a word. Animals have been part of my healing in way ...
