Why am I so sensitive to rejection? That is a question I have had to ask myself. Sometimes rejection is obvious. Someone tells you no. A relationship ends. You do not get the opportunity you hoped for. Other times, nothing has actually happene ...
Why Do I Feel Guilty Saying No? Learning to Choose Myself
Why do I feel guilty saying no? I have asked myself that question more than once. Sometimes I know I do not want to do something. I know I am tired. I know something does not work for me. I may even know that saying no is the healthiest ...
Afraid to Cry in Front of People? My Healing Story
For most of my life, I was afraid to cry in front of people. Crying never felt like a simple human emotion to me. Instead, it felt dangerous. Even around people I loved, my body would fight against the tears. My throat tightened, my chest became ...
Why You Don’t Have to Beg for Love
You should not have to beg someone to love you. Not for a text back. Not for honesty. Not for consistency. Not for basic respect. Not to feel like you matter. And I know that can hurt to admit. Especially when your heart wanted that person to finally c ...
How to Trust Your Intuition When Setbacks Shake Your Healing Journey
Sometimes healing looks like crying in the middle of the day because something old got triggered. Sometimes it looks like being proud of yourself one minute, then doubting everything the next. Sometimes it looks like taking one step forward, then won ...
How to Stop Seeking Validation From Someone Who Hurt You
Learning how to stop seeking validation from someone who hurt you happens slowly. It is not a switch you flip one day. It is a practice. It is choosing yourself again and again, especially on the days when you still wish they would choose you. 1. Tell You ...
How to Be Kinder to Yourself When You’re Healing
Being kind to yourself can feel hard when you are healing. You may know you need compassion. You may even tell other people to be gentle with themselves. But when it comes to you, the words may feel different. You may judge yourself for feeling too much.Y ...
Why I Smile When I’m Hurting Inside
For a long time, I did not understand why I smile when I’m hurting inside. I can be reading something painful. My chest can feel heavy. My throat can feel tight. I can feel sad, scared, or close to tears. Still, my face may smile. The smile does not match ...
Father Wound Healing: I Was Always Worthy of Being Chosen
Some pain starts before you have words for it. For me, father wound healing has not been a straight road. It has been slow, deep, and emotional. It has also forced me to look at the little girl inside me and tell her the truth. She was not hard to ...
Why Can’t I Cry Even When I’m Sad?
Have you ever wanted to cry, but your body would not let you? I have. For me, crying has never felt simple. Sometimes crying feels scary because my body learned a long time ago that showing pain was not safe. My throat gets tight. My chest feels heavy. My ...